11 Steps to an Easy Wedding Rehearsal

11 Steps to an Easy Wedding Rehearsal

In our blog Wedding Rehearsals – The Real Deal, we debunk some myths about rehearsals and answer some frequently asked questions.  Today, we’re going to give you 11 steps to an easy and efficient wedding rehearsal.

 

7 Things To Do BEFORE the Rehearsal

Hire a wedding planner (or coordinator)
I’m sure you’re thinking “of course she would say this. She’s a planner.”  While this is true, having a professional planner execute your rehearsal will help things go SO MUCH smoother.  Not only does it keep couples from stressing out and being seen as “bossy,” it also helps to keep those “helpful” know-it-all family members and friends at bay, eliminating lots of confusion.

Pair up your wedding party
Before the rehearsal figure out who you want to walk with whom. Whether it’s by height or relationship, have an idea of who will walk together. Unless there’s a married couple in your party, we typically suggest pairing the couples by height.  This eliminates the awkwardness of your 5’9” bridesmaid (before heels) walking with your 5’5” groomsman.  Other considerations are personalities and past relationships.  If you’ve got exes in your party who aren’t cordial, it’s probably best not to pair them together for your wedding.

Decide how the wedding party will enter
There are a number of ways your wedding party can enter the ceremony.  Unless dictated by your faith or place of worship where the ceremony will be held, this is totally up to you.  You can have all the pairs walk in together, OR the best man walk in with the groom, the pairs enter together and the maid/matron of honor walk in alone OR have all the men at the altar and all the ladies enter alone.  There’s no right or wrong here.  Just go with what feels best for you.

Determine what order everyone will enter
Now that you know who’s paired with whom and how they will enter.  The next step is to decide the order for the rest of the processional.  Traditionally, the groom enters, the grandparents, and then the parents.  Following them is the wedding party, maid/matron of honor, ring bearer, flower girl, and of course the bride.  This is 100% personal preference.  So again, go with what feels right for you.

Decide who will walk the bride in
Tradition says that a bride’s father will walk her down and give her away.  However, this isn’t always possible or the best option, whether because of death or simply the nature of their relationship.  Some brides have asked their mom, a close uncle or sibling, even their children.  Whomever is chosen, be sure to ask them with love and appreciation for what they mean to you.

Let your readers/singers know what they will be sharing
If you’re having a reader recite a poem or scripture or other text or a singer/musician performing a musical number, be sure to send this to them with ample time for them to prepare.  If someone is reading text, send them the passage in large easy to read font in a format that they can print with ease.  Be sure to have an extra copy on the wedding day.  I also highly recommend sending these to your planner as well, just in case.

Review the order of service with your officiant
Some officiants choose not to attend rehearsals since much of the time is spent walking in and out.  However, regardless of their attendance, you and your spouse to be should meet with your officiant to talk through the events.  They can share with you how they normally run a ceremony, and you can share with them your desires and plans – personal vows, unity ceremony, readers/singers, etc.  Be sure to ask any questions you have and work with your officiant to make your ceremony as unique and personal as possible.  Your ceremony should be a reflection of your personalities.

 

5 steps to make sure the rehearsal runs smoothly…and quickly

These are typically done by your planner/coordinator, but it’s always good to have an idea of the most efficient way to execute a wedding rehearsal.  Talk to your planner to make sure you know what to expect going in.

Start by lining up your wedding party on the altar
It might sound counterintuitive start at the front, but one of the most time-consuming parts of the rehearsal is figuring out where everyone will stand.  So do the hard stuff first.  Place your wedding party in the positions you want them.  Now, take a step back.  Make sure you can see everyone because your photographer will be capturing this image.

Recess out
Play your recessional music and have your party walk out – newlyweds, wedding party pairs, parents, and grandparents.  This lets everyone know what order they will leave at the conclusion of the ceremony.

Process in
We started rehearsal midway the ceremony, with everyone in their places.  Now we’re going back to the top; how they will come in. Play your processional music and allow your families and wedding party to enter in the order you decided on.  This allows them to see where they are coming from and going to.

Talk through the order of the ceremony
With everyone in their places, briefly talk through the events of the ceremony.  Who will speak, sing, or read and when.  If there’s a unity ceremony, be sure the let the wedding party know if they will need to step back a little to allow you access to that designated table or area.

Have a moment of Q&A
At this point, rehearsal is done.  All that’s left is to answer any questions and make sure everyone knows where to be and when on wedding day.  This is also a good time to let the wedding party know where they should go after they recess out after the ceremony.

Check out Wedding Rehearsals – The Real Deal to get answers to some frequently asked wedding rehearsal questions.

Happy Planning!


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Wedding Rehearsals – The Real Deal

Wedding Rehearsals – The Real Deal

After months, or years, of planning, it’s finally the week of your big day!  All the vendors are paid and you’re counting down the hours.   One of the last major milestones is the wedding rehearsal.  So let’s address a few myths and make some things clear about this wedding related event.

First things first.  Not everyone has be there.  Sure, it’s nice if the whole wedding party is present, but the fact is, all they’re doing is walking down the aisle and standing next to you.  I promise, if they can follow instructions, we can fill them in the day of the wedding if necessary.  Now, if you’ve chosen some intricate choreography to get them down the aisle, PLEASE, for the love of all things good and patient, teach them the steps (with the music) before the rehearsal. As a matter of fact, you probably should hold a couple practices to get those two left feet people together.

Next up, time!  Starting a rehearsal late can quickly become problematic.  Not only does it look bad on the couple and the planner, but it can easily cost you money.  Whether you’ve paid for the rehearsal space, have dinner reservations afterward, or you’ve got last minute tasks to complete, there’s simply a price to pay when the rehearsal runs late (don’t get me started on late ceremonies…cha ching!).  So when your brother texts saying he’s going to be 20min late or your friend is still on their way from the airport, don’t worry about it!  It’s better to fill them in later than to sit around and wait.  Plus, it’s kinda rude to those who arrived on time.

Third, location, location, location.  Your wedding rehearsal does not have to be held at the venue.  Of course that’s ideal because people don’t have to imagine where they would actually walk or stand.  However, venues often have other events booked the day before so it can be difficult securing time to rehearse (especially for Saturday and Sunday weddings).   That said, be flexible in location and/or day/time.  You may have to do a morning rehearsal, host it on a Thursday, or meet up at your parent’s house.  Either way, just remember that not everyone has to be present and not being at the venue isn’t the end of the world.  Just be sure to notify your ceremony participants as soon as you schedule the rehearsal to allow them ample time to plan to be there.

Last, but certainly not least, let’s talk about what happens at the wedding rehearsal.  If everyone is engaged and attentive, a wedding rehearsal should be less than an hour.  Yep, I said it.  Less than an hour.  Find your positions.  Assign walking partners.  Walk in.  Walk out.  Talk through the ceremony.  Answer questions.  Done!  It’s not complicated.

I know a lot of couples put pressure on themselves and their planner to make the wedding rehearsal perfect.  Trust me when I say, it will be fine.  Wedding rehearsals serve as a guide, but they should be fun and easy.  Simply stay on schedule. Don’t worry about who’s not there, and focus on the joy that’s coming as you marry the love of your life!

Now, here are a few Frequently Asked Questions about wedding rehearsals:

Who all should be there?
The couple and all those in the wedding party.  This include ushers and parental escorts (whoever is walking mom to her seat), flower girls, ring bearers, sign bearers, and any other ceremony participants.   This can also include any readers or performers if you want to see/hear them do their piece.

Does my officiant have to attend? 
Officiants are optional.  Some like to be there to talk through the order of the ceremony itself.  Others choose not to and trust the planner to handle it.  Talk to your officiant to see what they prefer.

Does the DJ have to be there?
While it can be helpful, your actual DJ does not have to be present.  However, you should make sure there is a way for your ceremony music to be played during the wedding rehearsal to allow your wedding party and family members to recognize their cues.

What should I wear?
Wedding rehearsals are typically casual events.  So feel free to wear whatever is comfortable.  There are no rules.

What about a rehearsal dinner?  Do I need to have one & who attends?
Rehearsal dinners often serve dual purpose.  Traditionally planned and hosted by the groom’s parents, they are a welcome party for out of town guests, and a nice way to say thank you to all those participating in the ceremony.  As with many things in wedding planning, this is optional, but it’s certainly a nice gesture of gratitude for the support and love that’s been given.

Have any more questions?  Let us know in the comments.
To learn more about how to make your wedding rehearsal super easy and efficient, check out our 11 tips to make your wedding rehearsal a breeze.

Happy Planning!!


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Wedding Day Packing Checklist

Wedding Day Packing Checklist

With everything that’s going on leading up to your wedding, packing for your big day can feel like a monumental task.  You want to make sure you have everything, but also don’t want to overpack.  On top of that, add “stress brain.”   You know it, when you feel like you’re missing something, but not quite sure what it is.  Well, we want to help by sharing this ultimate Wedding Day Packing Checklist.   From attire to emergency fixers, we’ve got you covered.   Since you also may be packing for your honeymoon, consider asking a trusted member of your family or wedding party to make sure this list is covered for you.  That will at least take one thing off your To Do list.

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While this list may cover all the common wedding day needs (and mishaps), there may be some unique scenarios that aren’t addressed.  In those cases, reach out to your wedding planner for help.  They will likely have a much more exhaustive emergency kit handy or have the means to help or advise you in other situations.

Happy planning.


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Your Wedding Day Look: How’s the View From the Back?

Your Wedding Day Look: How’s the View From the Back?

As couples prepare to walk down the aisle, they will often take a moment to face themselves in the mirror, making sure they look their best and reflecting on the new phase of life they are about to enter.  However, you need looking beyond what you see facing forward.  As you prepare to said I Do, consider your wedding day look and ask yourself “how’s the view from the back”.  You see, in a traditional American ceremony, guests will see the back of the couple more than anything.  So here are 5 easy tips to make sure you look your best, front and back, coming and going.

 

Make sure your gown fits properly.

Every lady wants to look snatched on her big day. So be sure to get a professional tailor to alter your gown.  You don’t want extra bulges of fabric around your waist indicating the dress is too big or have major back cleave between your shoulder blades because it’s too small.

 

Choose the right gown for your body type

I love you, so I’m going to be direct here….you have to know what style dress is best suited for your body type.  if you are a busty woman or are carrying a few extra pounds, a super low back dress may not be the style for you.  Not only do you risk exposing your undergarments (another no-no, let’s keep our secrets secret), but you are also risking sharing heaping servings of back fat with your guests.  Your future spouse may love all your curves and all your edges, but you don’t need to share them with your family and friends.

 

Tie up the loose ends

If you have selected a gown with a corset gown, please make sure the person tying you up keeps your lacing flat and equally spaced.  Also, remind them to tuck in the bunny ears and loose ends of the laces.  We don’t want draw attention to your bum with a big bow and long tails swinging behind you.

 

Wear an appropriate length veil (if you opt for one)

When you find the perfect gown, try on veils before your appointment ends.  Look in the mirror & see which length compliments the gown the best and hits you in just the right place.  I’m not saying you have to purchase the veil. Just check the length.  Here’s why….having a fingertip veil might look great from the front, but, if you’re blessed with curves & wearing a fitted gown, it might lay in a way in the back that will highlight all your “assets” for your guests.  The point, just make sure the length of the veil fits you as well as the shape of the gown.
Another point on the veil, on wedding day make sure your veil is pinned/clipped in your hair straight, centered & securely. You don’t want it falling out on your way down the aisle. (Yes, that actually happened!)

Check your hair

This one is a no-brainer.  Make sure you love your hair style and that it’s perfect from the front, sides & back. Ensure that any hair accessory or hair jewelry is placed securely & properly.  Oh, and can I be direct again?   Please keep in mind that it doesn’t take long for cheap weave to get tangled, messy, & matted.  So just like you’ve invested in your gown, shoes & jewelry, invest in good hair for your big day!  You don’t want folks to say that you only looked good from the neck down.

Happy planning.


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Flower Girl 101

Flower Girl 101

They’re tiny.  They’re cute.  And these little ladies have even been known to steal the show!  Today we’re talking all things flower girls!   We’ve already explored the history of flower girls.  So now let’s dig a little deeper and get practical, answering those frequently asked questions about these adorable petal tossers.

 

Flower Girl Questions


Do I need a flower girl in my ceremony?

No, you don’t.  Flower girls add a great cute factor, but they aren’t necessary.  So feel free to do away with tradition if you’re not interested or don’t have a young person to fill the role.

Who should be the flower girl?

Flower girls can be daughters, nieces, cousins or even a friend’s daughter.  There’s no rule here.

How old they be?

Typically, they range in age from 3 to 8 years old.  Regardless of the age, just be sure that they will actually walk down the aisle and not clam up at the sight of all strange faces looking at them.  I’ve had to walk several flower girls down the aisle in my time.

How many flower girls can I have?

There’s no limit.  If you have a bunch of nieces or cousins, you can include them all to avoid anyone feeling left out.  Just consider having at least one older one to help the younger girls.  You can even have them hold hands to make them feel safe & comfortable walking down the aisle together, or even consider putting the smallest ones in a wagon pulled by eldest.

What should they wear?

There are no hard and fast rules here.  They can wear a dress similar to the bride’s or you can have them coordinated with the bridesmaids in color or style.  You can even put them in something completely unique.   The choice is yours!

Who pays for the dress?

Typically, the parents of the flower girl will pay for her attire.  If you want her to wear something that’s rather pricey, you may want to consider covering all, or at least a good portion, of the cost.

Do they have to throw flowers?

No, not at all.  They can carry balloons, blow bubbles, carry a small sign saying “the bride is coming,” or anything else you envision.   Again, there are no rules here.

How do they process into the ceremony?

The flower girl typically enters after the maid/matron of honor and before the bride.  They can either remain at the altar with the other bridesmaids during the ceremony or have them sit with their parent(s) to keep them from being a fidgety distraction for your guests.

Do I have to have them at the reception?

Nope, not if you don’t want to.  If you’re hosting an adult-only reception, it’s perfectly acceptable to not have your flower girls there.  However, it is imperative that you communicate this to her parents ahead of time so that they can make the necessary arrangements, especially if you’re inviting the parents to stay.

Should I send them a thank you gift?

It’s certainly a nice gesture, but let’s be honest, you’d be doing it for yourself & for her parents since it’s highly unlikely that a 5 year old will understand the concept of a thank you gift.  If you choose to get her a gift, just know that it doesn’t have to be expensive.  I cute doll or toy, or even a personalized jewelry box or other memento that she can have for years to come, is sufficient.

 

Are there alternatives to a flower girl?

Absolutely!  In the past few years, couples have swung the pendulum on flower girls.  They have shifted from using the cute little ladies to recruiting their grandmothers or even a close friend with a great personality to carry this honor.  Other couples have given the role to a well-trained pet that can respond well to cues of when & where to walk.

If you still like the idea of using young girls on your day, but don’t want them to walk down the aisle, you could use them as greeters to wave and welcome guests as they enter the ceremony; this is sure to set a fun & cute mood for your day.  If they are a little older, you can use them as ushers to hand out programs and escort guests to their seats.

The point here is that there are no rules.  This is your day.  So look outside the box and make your day personal, unique & memorable!

We hope this answers most, if not all, of your flower girl questions .  Leave us a comment if there’s anything else we can share or answer for you.

Happy Planning!


Check out our blog on the history of flower girls to learn where this adorable tradition came from.
We explore more wedding tradition history with the bridal bouquet, wedding cake and bridesmaids posts.
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